{"id":57100,"date":"2026-01-19T06:56:31","date_gmt":"2026-01-19T13:56:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/publicsquaremag.org\/?p=57100"},"modified":"2026-01-19T06:56:31","modified_gmt":"2026-01-19T13:56:31","slug":"the-continuous-habitual-struggle-for-peace","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/publicsquaremag.org\/dialogue\/tolerance\/the-continuous-habitual-struggle-for-peace\/","title":{"rendered":"The Continuous, Habitual Struggle for Peace"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/publicsquaremag.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/Peacemaking-and-the-Slow-Work-of-Reconciliation-Public-Square-Magazine.pdf\" download=\"\"><picture><source srcset=\"https:\/\/publicsquaremag.org\/wp-content\/webp-express\/webp-images\/uploads\/2025\/03\/pdf-download-1.png.webp\" type=\"image\/webp\"><img decoding=\"async\" style=\"margin-right: 2px; padding-right: 0; float: left;\" src=\"https:\/\/publicsquaremag.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/03\/pdf-download-1.png\" class=\"webpexpress-processed\"><\/picture> Download Print-Friendly Version<\/a><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cChange does not roll in on the wheels of inevitability, but comes through continuous struggle.\u201d \u2014Martin Luther King Jr.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes the week\u2019s sermons foreshadow a struggle that will soon knock at your door.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">My wife, Missy, and I learned this recently in a peacemaking crisis with a neighbor, which came less than 24 hours after we heard two sermons on peacemaking. I\u2019ll call our neighbor Alice (not her real name). She\u2019s a short, stocky, 50-something woman who walks with a waddle. She loves animals. Between November and March, Alice feeds the crows pounds of peanuts. The result is a noisy murder of birds and a roof and yard (ours) littered with shells that clog our gutters.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><div class=\"perfect-pullquote vcard pullquote-align-right pullquote-border-placement-left\"><blockquote><p>This was quickly turning into a Shakespearean tragedy.<\/p><\/blockquote><\/div>This past spring, as Missy cleaned leaves and peanut shells from our curb, she encountered Alice. It was a beautiful sunny day after another grueling winter. At one point, the conversation turned to what Missy was doing. My wife kindly and calmly asked Alice if she would consider feeding the crows something else because of the mess from the peanut shells. No promise was made, and life went on.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Then, about six months later, on the Monday morning before Thanksgiving, Alice knocked on our door as we were busy preparing to leave for the airport.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cDid you put this on my door?\u201d she asked.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">She showed us a piece of light blue paper with these words: \u201cPLEASE STOP FEEDING PEANUTS TO THE CROWS!!!!!\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cNo,\u201d I responded.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cDid someone else in your house put it out? I know you don\u2019t like the peanuts,\u201d Alice said, her face and voice making clear she was not convinced by my denial.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cNo, we didn\u2019t put that sign out,\u201d Missy said.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cAre you lying to me?\u201d Alice asked.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cNo,\u201d I said.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I was terse because there was no time to talk. Like those birds, we had to catch a flight.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And with that, Alice shrugged her shoulders in frustration, turned around, and stomped down our steps. In her mind, we were guilty.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The next Monday morning, we were back home. A crow was on our skylight, pecking away at something. I worried the bird might chip the window. As I often do, I opened our front door to raise my hands and shew away the murder congregating on the street.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Alice saw this through her window and was steamed. She stormed over, knocked on the door, and asked to speak with me.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cI was on the phone with my daughter just a minute ago when I saw you open your door and wave the crows away,\u201d Alice said, her voice on edge and full of spite. \u201cI know it was you who put the sign on my door. You are sign people. You have a no soliciting sign and that other one asking people to not leave dog poop on their lawn. Why can\u2019t we just talk about this and not behave like we\u2019re in middle school? What is your problem with the crows?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This was quickly turning into a Shakespearean tragedy, with Alice misinterpreting our every word and move.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I explained calmly that the crows\u2019 pecking wakes us up and clogs our gutters. I could have added that their repeated noises bothers one of our daughters, who has sensory issues. And there\u2019s also the potential for their pecking to ruin our roof.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><div class=\"perfect-pullquote vcard pullquote-align-right pullquote-border-placement-left\"><blockquote><p>The peacemaking process can be chaotic.<\/p><\/blockquote><\/div>Alice then accused Missy of yelling at her last spring when she asked her to consider feeding the crows something else. This is where things went off the rails. Missy never yells at <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">anything<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. The accusation blindsided both of us. From there, voices grew louder, Missy was in tears, and a primal instinct drove me to tell Alice she needed to leave. I grabbed her by the arm and led her out the door. I pushed her past the threshold because she would not go willingly.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As I closed the door, she lobbed one last verbal grenade.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cThe crows are the nicest neighbors I have,\u201d Alice said. \u201cYou are so mean!\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I immediately wondered\u2014was I too forceful, too rash? The exchange rocked us and turned the day to ash.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The next afternoon, we composed a note of apology for misunderstanding her and regret for the scene that marred our Monday. Missy left it on Alice\u2019s porch with a loaf of pumpkin chocolate chip bread.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Alice responded a week later with a brief note, sent via snail mail. She thanked us for the bread but did not apologize. Her words felt like a backhanded way of saying we are to blame.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">With the wound still fresh and our minds in disbelief at her callousness, we tossed her note in our recycle bin. We wanted to be right. We wanted her to see the logic of our clogged gutters and our daughter&#8217;s sensory needs. But the ensuing silence was heavy. The poison of strife was setting in, that physical tightening of the chest that happens when a neighbor becomes an adversary.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It was here that the sermons from that Sunday began to sink in. The <a href=\"https:\/\/publicsquaremag.org\/dialogue\/the-final-lesson-of-peacemaking-ask-better-questions\/\">peacemaking process<\/a> can be chaotic and confusing. As the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King famously noted, \u201cChange does not roll in on the wheels of inevitability, but comes through continuous struggle.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Love and <a href=\"https:\/\/publicsquaremag.org\/faith\/gospel-fare\/why-forgiveness-important-for-healing\/\">forgiveness<\/a> are the only way forward. Thus our quick offering of peace. This Dr. King also knew. \u201cDarkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that,\u201d he said. \u201cHate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Alas, progress toward peace feels less like a victory march and more like the slow process of clearing a blocked gutter\u2014one handful of debris at a time. But we will try. And we will keep trying.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We want to be peacemakers. But peacemaking is a <a href=\"https:\/\/publicsquaremag.org\/dialogue\/conflict-resolution-strategies-save-relationships\/\">long dance<\/a>, a communal project that must be engaged in by both sides. Whether it is building muscle, better habits, stronger relationships, or a neighborhood and society where we simply respect and love each other, nothing comes to pass without Dr. King\u2019s idea of \u201ccontinuous struggle.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><div class=\"perfect-pullquote vcard pullquote-align-right pullquote-border-placement-left\"><blockquote><p>We are commanded to love her.<\/p><\/blockquote><\/div>Moses knew this. The Hebrew prophet had a classic mountaintop experience where God spoke to him from a high place and showed him a vision of all of this world and its inhabitants. Then God\u2019s presence withdrew and Moses was \u201c<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.churchofjesuschrist.org\/study\/scriptures\/pgp\/moses\/1?lang=eng#:~:text=And%20the%20presence%20of%20God%20withdrew%20from%20Moses%2C%20that%20his%20glory%20was%20not%20upon%20Moses%3B%20and%20Moses%20was%20left%20unto%20himself.%20And%20as%20he%20was%20left%20unto%20himself%2C%20he%20fell%20unto%20the%20earth.\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">left unto himself<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201d and he fell to the earth, learning a lesson he\u2019d never forget about his own limited abilities and God\u2019s infinite powers.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In Moses\u2019 reflection of the wonder of his theophany, we find a powerful phrase: \u201c<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.churchofjesuschrist.org\/study\/scriptures\/pgp\/moses\/1?lang=eng#:~:text=I%20beheld%20his%20face%2C%20for%20I%20was%20transfigured%20before%20him.\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I beheld [God\u2019s] face<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Though this painful experience with Alice remains unresolved, it was an opportunity to behold her face up close\u2014not merely as the \u201ccrow lady\u201d or a source of drama, but as someone created in the image of God. We are commanded to love her who, at the moment, feels like an enemy. As the musical <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Les Miserables <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">concludes, \u201cTo love another person is to see the face of God.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The continuous struggle to find that divine face in the neighbor is the path toward the light of God. It is not paved with grand gestures or born of sudden, mountain top epiphanies, but is carved out of daily rhythms of relation where we smile at others, say hello, step into shared spaces, and listen. The struggle isn\u2019t heroic\u2014it\u2019s <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">habitual<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>How can conflict be redeemed? 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